Sunday, 19 August 2012

Bohemian Rhapsody

For those of you who don't know anything about me, the second quarter of 2012 sucked. It was a twelve week nightmare I don't ever want to repeat. I learnt a few good lessons though and here they no particularly order.
  • If you've got a shit load of bad Karma accrued, then death will not be a peaceful process for you.
  • All your friends will tell you "if you need anything, all you have to do is ask" but 98% of them don't mean it.
  • People you hardly know will show you amazing random acts of kindness that leave you weeping and with a renewed sense of knowing there are nice people in the world.
  • You were right to believe that the only person you can truly count on is yourself.
  • Even though all you want to do is sit in a corner and can't fit it into your schedule.
  • The only way to move forward is to take one step at a time.
In accordance with the last lesson mentioned I'm now walking forward. I am, in a sense, rebooting my life.

I must say the reboot process is interesting. I started by moving house (way to go me, add more stress to an already shitful time.) I moved out of the house Shane and I shared and rented myself a one bedroom flat in the city. Mind you it's a city three hours from where I lived before. My best friend tells me the flat is not an old hovel with freeloading cockroaches that just refuse to move out, no matter how much spray I use or insect baits I scatter around. According to her, the little flat is a Bohemian artists retreat that will inspire my creativity. I guess it's all about perspective really.  Anyway, I have decided to embrace this Bohemian lifestyle that the universe  unceremoniously  thrusted me into...but what exactly does that mean?

According to the all knowing wikepedia it means this:

...the non-traditional lifestyles of marginalized and impoverished artists, writers, journalists, musicians, and actors in major European cities. Bohemians were associated with unorthodox or anti-establishment political or social viewpoints, which were often expressed through free love, frugality and — in some cases — voluntary poverty...

Surprisingly, without even trying I think I can put a tick next to most categories.
  • Non-traditional lifestyle: I'm often referred to as eccentric, slightly left of centre and I'm involved in the BDSM scene...check.
  • Marginalised: maybe, maybe not...more than likely not...un-check
  • Impoverished writer: That is sooo covered. Unfortunately, at the moment I'm far from affluent as a result of being an author...that's a big check.
  • Unorthodox, anti-establishment viewpoints: Well my family always referred to me as the rebel so I guess that would be a...check.
  • Free love: Yes, I've never charged anyone for sex so (lol)...check.
  • Frugality: Frugal by necessity rather than design, I would never live in voluntary poverty but I still meet the requirement...check.

Some of my behaviors and experiences lately may also reflect this new Bohemianism. I've gone drinking with the girls (Okay, I didn't just drink I got shit-faced drunk...damn you Mr Daniels.) I pole danced at the pub (refer to the shit-faced bit above). I've been called a Ho because I mentioned on facebook I was checking out the sexy builders across the road (apparently the now FB un-friend thought that was inappropriate since Shane was dead). Finally, I've totally embraced the cafe lifestyle, one of the benifits of city living. Oh, and I now walk everywhere instead of driving.

Yep, it appears I am definitely embracing the lifestyle, even if it's unintentionally. 


  1. HUGS!! I just got through a particularly rough year here. I know all about those things you learned. Sucks when life sucks the most.. Is when you find out all that. You are a awesome author :) And you are still allowed to look at and think others are hot. YOU are still here and living. <3

    1. Thanks Chris,and I will continue to look at the hotties across the road, as you said I'm still living. :)

  2. (And take pics!!) lol Share the hotties

  3. Really? can't look at a few builders because Shane is dead? well if they were such good friends they would know why Shane is dead and that you were the one there everyday. Tell the Fucktards to grow up and Fuck off, or better still give me their name.

    1. I love you Lady Mac, you're such a good friend. I chose the de-friend route because it seemed the least confrontational solution. You know me, I try to ignore idiots.

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